The Art of Letting Go

What exactly do people mean when they talk about the power of “letting go”?  As a therapist, I often see people who are holding on to things that no longer serve them.  They hold on to negative emotions, unhealthy attachments and, worst of all, past grievances.  What if true and lasting freedom could be found in letting these things go?

There are a lot of reasons why we resist letting things go.  We fear change.  We find comfort in the familiar, and we can even build an identity around these attachments.  These can make it even harder to let go.  Hanging on to past hurts, judgements or other emotional pain can lead to anxiety, worry and even depression, and it can even lead to bitterness and resentment.  Let’s face it, none of these are good for our mental health.  The good news is that there are simple alternatives.

Here are a few ways to practice the art of “letting go”:

1. Acknowledge: whatever is renting space for free in your thoughts and heart. This is the easiest way to make an inventory of your hurts and grievances.
2. Use Journaling: to better understand your emotions and to work them out.
3. Shift Perspective: to see what your life can look and feel like without these issues.
4. Practice Self-Compassion: by understanding that letting go is a process and not simply a one-time event.
5. Seek Support: from a therapist, a supportive group or a trusted friend while holding the intention of letting these hurts go.

As we all gather ourselves up after another crazy holiday season, I want to leave you with one thing: Learning the art of “letting go” is a courageous act of self-care and healing.  You will feel lighter and freer than ever before.  It is a gift that keeps on giving, and it will radiate out to others in your life.

While there is no way to let go of everything all at once, I encourage you to take one small step in this journey by identifying and letting go of one hurt, judgement or grievance that is taking up more space in your thoughts than you would like it to.  Freedom is waiting on the other side.

source https://www.lifesworkclinic.com/the-art-of-letting-go/